R. Marc Andrews LCSW, QCSW, MS

Counseling and Clinical Supervision

Watch: ‘I Will Marry You,’ A Sumptuous Marriage Equality Ad From Italy

This is refreshing: In a PSA entitled “I Will Marry You,” the Italian LGBT advocacy group Arcigay has no doubt unleashed a finely tuned, almost poetic video that looks at ordinary life and same-sex relationships very much like Australia’s “It’s Time,” which The Advocate called “possibly the most beautiful ad for marriage equality we’ve seen.”

Below, sprinkled with music by Lorenzo ‘Jovanotti’ Cherubini, yellow sunlight and the sound of two men invariably in love flutter all around like snowflakes. In other words, the video might knock your heart out. (via Instinct Magazine)

This is just great

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4 Things to Remember When You Can’t Take It Anymore | Bounce Back: Develop Your Resiliency

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4 steps to being able to take it
So, the next time you are feeling bad, remember these four things:

1. Emotions are often short-lived and transitory.

2. Think about your experience in the present moment rather than falling prey to words like always and forever.

3. Take a deep breath and tolerate the painful emotion, holding on to the certainty that it won’t last forever.

4. Make sure to be present and actually notice when your emotions change. Sometimes the difference is subtle, but once you begin to see the transitions, you will have more confidence that your pain will eventually change, too.

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How to Masturbate for Men

Masturbation is considered by many to be the cornerstone of sexual health. Most men believe that they already know everything about their own genitals and sexual response. It’s all out there, boys will be boys, etc. But just because you know how your tools work, doesn’t mean you can build the Eiffel Tower. In fact most men experience a fraction of their full erotic and orgasmic potential. Read on for simple and fun tips on how to masturbate for men.

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Average Penis Size

Determining the average penis size for a group of males, let alone for men around the world, is more complicated than you might imagine. Unfortunately most information about average penis size comes from popular culture and not science. Let’s start by considering some figures from science.

Go ahead and read the article. you know that you want to know, and you might walk away feeling good about your self.

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Which Love Language Suits You and Your Partner? | World of Psychology

The Five Love Languages argues that people express love in different ways, and people feel loved in different ways. These five types of expression and perception are the five “love languages.” According to Chapman, people feel loved when a partner expresses love in the language that is natural to the recipient. If love is expressed in a different language, that message of love isn’t received.

The five “languages” are:

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch (not the same as sex)

For more information about counseling and psychology, check out my site at RMarcAndrews.com

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Which Love Language Suits You and Your Partner? | World of Psychology

The Five Love Languages argues that people express love in different ways, and people feel loved in different ways. These five types of expression and perception are the five “love languages.” According to Chapman, people feel loved when a partner expresses love in the language that is natural to the recipient. If love is expressed in a different language, that message of love isn’t received.

The five “languages” are:

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch (not the same as sex)

For more information about counseling and psychology, check out my site at RMarcAndrews.com

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Kergan Edwards-Stout: An Open Letter to Rick Santorum

Dear Mr. Santorum,

You were recently quoted as saying that a jailed parent would be better for a child than being raised by a same-sex couple.

Can any of us sit by as someone like this runs for the leader of the United States of America. Can we let blatant ignorance run this country?

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7 Ways to Let Go | World of Psychology

You may be grieving the death of a loved one, or the end of a friendship you had hoped would be more, or merely the realization that your father will never be able to give you what you need from that relationship. It seems as though every moment of this life is about letting go, of something or someone that is renting far too much space in our heads.

1) Live in the present
2) Trust the process
3) Expect regression
4) Lose control
5) Make room
6) Break up the pain
7) Identify false belief

For more information about counseling and psychology, check out my site at RMarcAndrews.com

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The Year in Gratitude: Introducing the Virtual Gratitude Visit | World of Psychology

The research on gratitude keeps demonstrating how powerful a positive intervention of having gratitude in our lives can be.  To acknowledge someone for being in your life is one of the most dynamic ways to increase your well-being and the well-being of others.  This exercise works best if you write it down, and even better if you can deliver a letter of gratitude to the person involved.  Here’s how it works.

For more information about counseling and psychology, check out my site at RMarcAndrews.com

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The Neuroscience of ‘Genuine’ Love – And What Love Quotes Say! | Neuroscience and Relationships

Top athletes know there’s truth in the, ‘no pain, no gain‘ cliche. Similarly, partners in healthy, strong relationships recognize love is a daily discipline, replete with exercises, that keep their hearts and minds supple and strong.

For more information about counseling and psychology, check out my site at RMarcAndrews.com

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I am a licensed clinical social worker committed to empowering gay men and people affected by HIV/AIDS. I believe that growth is a never-ending process, and I work with clients who are as interested in building the best things in life as they triumph over the worst.

Phone: 503-583-2037
Email: RMA@RMarcAndrews.com



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